Tonight I had to make a choice. I had to be that tough lovin’ mama, the one who sees her child made a mistake and then holds them accountable. Moe may only be 4 years old, but he knew he had lied. A dear friend tended to Biena and Moe while I was at the horse lot with Bubs and Curly. While Moe was there he broke a toy, a toy filled with water. When confronted about this he apparently decided it would be best to blame my friends child for the broken toy. Keep in mind the child he was casting blame on wasn’t even in the room when it happened.
My friend did not mention this little incident to me when I arrived to pick Moe and Biena up. No, that luxury belonged to Biena, my personal talking tabloid. I asked Moe about the incident to which he replied, ”but I didn’t break it mama, _____ did.”
I could tell by the look in his eyes that he wasn’t telling the truth. His eyes never lie.
I looked him in those tell all eyes of his and said, ”if it was an accident you really should tell me, I am sure you would never break your friends toy on purpose”.
His eyes, big and full of sorrow looked up towards me as he uttered under his breath, ”I’m sorry, I broke it”
We hugged for a minute and then I made him do something very difficult. I made him apologize to my friend.
Oh, that was a hard phone call. Hard for Moe, and hard for me. He struggled so, with those apologetic words. His sweet little face fell as he said he was sorry. The tears welled up in his eyes and mine. My tears were not because I felt sorry for him, rather I was proud of him for not throwing the phone at me, hiding in his room, and refusing to say he was sorry.
When you are the baby of the family you tend to get away with more than you should. This was a hard lesson for him. It was though, necessary.
From one mom to another…. teach them when they are young to make the right choices, make them accountable for the not so great choices they’ll make. It is how they learn. It is part of the foundation for who they will become.
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